Certainty ain't certain. Reasoning fluctuates. Thresholds contract. Questions emerge. Doubt abounds. Truth is, some things require re-examination, fresh eyes and shifting perspectives. If we're still thinking and speaking and believing old-school beliefs, perhaps it's time for a shift. How willing are you to see something differently?

We stay seeking practices that anchor us in focus and feel good. One of us finds peace in household plants, the other power walks through the greenways in the city. Whatever works! Truth is, sometimes we neglect the righteous rituals when life swerves, dips, and shimmies. Name the nuance- romance, vacation, jobs, care taking- then watch our elevation routines lose luster and priority. What rituals do you need to dust off and give new life? What practices will you restore for your own satisfaction?

Facts up front: we know a few things about a lot of things but not everything about everything. We are sojourners of the truth and this conversation makes it plain. With candor, curiosity and comedy, we shared our sacred space with a few men as they helped us better understand relationships, intimacy and connection. We got an earful, friends! We hope it inspires you to initiate conversations that request vulnerability and personal truth.

Fellas: You all ever go to the movies with your friends and eat from the same tub of popcorn? Or sit side-by-side in the theater slurping from the same drink? Or use a one-stall public restroom to get dressed together? Do you ever notice the physical intimacy between women and wonder what it would be like to have homeboys who tuck in your shirt tag or eat Skittles out of your hand? We want to know: do men do friendship the way women do friendship? Tell us the truth!

We hear it all the time from our white supporters. How can we help? How do I become an ally? Truth is, some help isn't helpful at all. And some allyship is powerful enough to convince us that maybe, just maybe, we all are going to be alright.